Even when they say they love you, there’s still that small, nagging fear of rejection.
But, you’ve still got to take the chance that frightens the hell outta you. You’ve still got to exhibit the YOU that just MIGHT get rejected. You’ve still got to exhibit the YOU that you’d really rather not be, but can’t help but to be because that is the YOU that you REALLY are and see what happens.
If they truly love you, they will bring up what they would really rather reject but can’t because that would be like rejecting you completely.
“If in being yourself, you stress [them] out and [they] leave…eff [them]…It’s [their] loss, not yours. [They] couldn’t accept the real you, which only means [they] don’t deserve any of you. Point. Blank. Period.”
Got that from http://www.singleblackman.org
There are bound to be some things about you that your significant other is just not going to like.
Why do I say that?
Well, because we are not perfect people. We are perfectly made imperfect by a perfect God who knows that perfection can only be obtained through Him…FOR Him.
We are just bound to have traits that others just are not going to like. You, me, him, her, them, they…we ALL have something, no matter how good we are otherwise, that our significant other and other important people in our lives are just not going to like.
However, we’ve got to still “do us.” We can’t hide that trait. We can’t NOT be ourselves AND accept someone’s vow that they love us if they’ve never seen (and possibly will never see) that part of us. They only love SOME of us.
And that’s not fair–to us, or to them.
Back to my original statement: Even when they say they love you, there is still that small, nagging fear of rejection.
The only way to conquer that fear…..
Step out on it and see what happens.
They either love you, or they don’t.